{"id":1132,"date":"2017-02-14T13:47:35","date_gmt":"2017-02-14T11:47:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bulentsekerel.com\/?page_id=1132"},"modified":"2017-02-16T10:15:16","modified_gmt":"2017-02-16T08:15:16","slug":"anne-babalik-hakkinda","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/index.php\/anne-babalik-hakkinda\/","title":{"rendered":"Anne Babal\u0131k Hakk\u0131nda"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_heading-d97e37cb2fbcebb2d7b85b4ab252fef3\">\n#top .av-special-heading.av-av_heading-d97e37cb2fbcebb2d7b85b4ab252fef3{\npadding-bottom:10px;\ncolor:#7bb0e7;\n}\nbody .av-special-heading.av-av_heading-d97e37cb2fbcebb2d7b85b4ab252fef3 .av-special-heading-tag .heading-char{\nfont-size:25px;\n}\n.av-special-heading.av-av_heading-d97e37cb2fbcebb2d7b85b4ab252fef3 .special-heading-inner-border{\nborder-color:#7bb0e7;\n}\n.av-special-heading.av-av_heading-d97e37cb2fbcebb2d7b85b4ab252fef3 .av-subheading{\nfont-size:15px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='av-special-heading av-av_heading-d97e37cb2fbcebb2d7b85b4ab252fef3 av-special-heading-h3 custom-color-heading  avia-builder-el-0  el_before_av_one_half  avia-builder-el-first '><h3 class='av-special-heading-tag'  itemprop=\"headline\"  >SA\u011eLIKLI \u00c7OCUK YET\u0130\u015eT\u0130RMEK<\/h3><div class=\"special-heading-border\"><div class=\"special-heading-inner-border\"><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c{\n-webkit-border-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n-moz-border-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div class='flex_column av-av_one_half-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c av_one_half  avia-builder-el-1  el_after_av_heading  el_before_av_one_half  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding '     ><section  class='av_textblock_section av-av_textblock-0366cc7376be6c9e82a3e9cc8987b64f'  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/CreativeWork\" ><div class='avia_textblock'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p>Bu sayfada, Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00c7ocuk Yeti\u015ftirmek ile alakal\u0131, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131daki konularda bilgiler payla\u015f\u0131lmaktad\u0131r;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Anne &#8211; Babal\u0131k Felsefesi<\/li>\n<li>Duygular\u0131n \u0130fade Edilmesi<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011fu Dinlemek<\/li>\n<li>Sorumsuzluk Duygusunun Geli\u015ftirilmesi (!)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Prof. Dr. B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel taraf\u0131ndan derlenen bu bilgilerin izinsiz kopyalanmas\u0131 yasakt\u0131r.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/section><\/div>\n\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_half-531d5d4d3d3a74d4c56d8363993d8877\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_half-531d5d4d3d3a74d4c56d8363993d8877{\n-webkit-border-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n-moz-border-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div class='flex_column av-av_one_half-531d5d4d3d3a74d4c56d8363993d8877 av_one_half  avia-builder-el-3  el_after_av_one_half  el_before_av_one_full  flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding '     ><style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_image-3eab9ffe2e958ceca721fd0cff816a45\">\n.avia-image-container.av-av_image-3eab9ffe2e958ceca721fd0cff816a45 img.avia_image{\nbox-shadow:none;\n}\n.avia-image-container.av-av_image-3eab9ffe2e958ceca721fd0cff816a45 .av-image-caption-overlay-center{\ncolor:#ffffff;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div  class='avia-image-container av-av_image-3eab9ffe2e958ceca721fd0cff816a45 av-styling- avia-align-center  avia-builder-el-4  avia-builder-el-no-sibling '   itemprop=\"image\" itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/ImageObject\" ><div class=\"avia-image-container-inner\"><div class=\"avia-image-overlay-wrap\"><img decoding=\"async\" class='wp-image- avia-img-lazy-loading-not- avia_image ' src=\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/shutterstock_2815729-495x400.jpg\" alt='' title=''   itemprop=\"thumbnailUrl\"  \/><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n<style type=\"text\/css\" data-created_by=\"avia_inline_auto\" id=\"style-css-av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c\">\n.flex_column.av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c{\n-webkit-border-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n-moz-border-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\nborder-radius:0px 0px 0px 0px;\npadding:0px 0px 0px 0px;\n}\n<\/style>\n<div class='flex_column av-av_one_full-6126cab7d8fab8d08143dd2dacdf673c av_one_full  avia-builder-el-5  el_after_av_one_half  avia-builder-el-last  first flex_column_div av-zero-column-padding column-top-margin'     ><div  class='tabcontainer av-av_tab_container-0bacd910096d11a3cec6dfb538798966 top_tab  avia-builder-el-6  avia-builder-el-no-sibling ' role='tablist'>\n<section class='av_tab_section av_tab_section av-av_tab-f915b234f718ab3f677a93fe714334f6'  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/CreativeWork\" ><div class='tab active_tab' role='tab' tabindex='0' data-fake-id='#tab-id-1' aria-controls='tab-id-1-content'  itemprop=\"headline\" >Anne-Babal\u0131k Felsefesi<\/div><div id='tab-id-1-content' class='tab_content active_tab_content' aria-hidden=\"false\"><div class='tab_inner_content invers-color'  itemprop=\"text\" ><p>Anlaml\u0131 ve g\u00fczel bir ya\u015fam s\u00fcrd\u00fcrebilmek i\u00e7in gerekli yap\u0131n\u0131n temelini olu\u015fturabilme f\u0131rsat\u0131 \u00e7ocuklu\u011fun ilk y\u0131llar\u0131nda elinizdedir. Unutmay\u0131n\u0131zki; bu daha sonra bir daha elde edilemeyecek bir f\u0131rsatd\u0131r. Ya\u015fam\u0131n anlaml\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 olu\u015fturan da belli dengelerin kurulabilmesidir. Bu dengelerin baz\u0131lar\u0131:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>G\u00fcven verebilecek, ama \u00e7ocu\u011fun bireyselli\u011fini ve ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 engellemeyecek kadar ilgi ve koruma.<\/li>\n<li>G\u00fcvenli\u011fi sa\u011flayacak, ama isyana yol a\u00e7mayacak veya umutsuz bir acizlik duygusu yaratmayacak kadar s\u0131n\u0131rlama.<\/li>\n<li>Ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olman\u0131n gururunu tatt\u0131racak, ama hayat\u0131 angarya haline getirmeyecek kadar i\u015f.<\/li>\n<li>Sorumluluk duygusu kazand\u0131racak, ama sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131k duygusunu yoketmeyecek kadar disiplin ve e\u011fitim.<\/li>\n<li>Hayat\u0131 e\u011flenceli bir hale getirecek, ama zevkin bir ama\u00e7 haline gelmesini engelleyecek kadar kahkaha ve oyun.<\/li>\n<li>Hayat\u0131 beklentilere uygun bir hale getirecek, ama tahamm\u00fcl edilemeyecek kadar kat\u0131 bir hale sokmayacak kadar tutarl\u0131l\u0131k.<\/li>\n<li>\u00dcretken olman\u0131n mutlulu\u011funu \u00f6\u011fretecek, ama \u00e7ocu\u011fu ben merkezci bir hale sokmayacak kadar gurur.<\/li>\n<li>Herg\u00fcn\u00fc sevecen ve s\u0131cak bir hale getirecek ve ac\u0131 dolu \u00e7abalar\u0131 ihtiya\u00e7 duyuldu\u011fu s\u00fcrece ve bir \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu y\u00fcreklendirecek kadar sevgi!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>______________________________________________<\/p>\n<p><sup>*Ketterman, Grace\u00a0(Ph.D),<\/sup><sup>\u00a0<em>\u201cAnababalar\u0131n En \u00c7ok Sordu\u011fu Sorular\u0131n Cevaplar\u0131<\/em>\u201d, <\/sup><\/p>\n<p><sup>\u00c7ev: Dr. Hande G\u00fcrel, HYB Yay\u0131nc\u0131l\u0131k, 1998.<\/sup><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/section>\n<section class='av_tab_section av_tab_section av-av_tab-5d77276583057a0b9f448ca581d06621'  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/CreativeWork\" ><div class='tab' role='tab' tabindex='0' data-fake-id='#tab-id-2' aria-controls='tab-id-2-content'  itemprop=\"headline\" >Duygular\u0131n \u0130fade Edilmesi<\/div><div id='tab-id-2-content' class='tab_content' aria-hidden=\"true\"><div class='tab_inner_content invers-color'  itemprop=\"text\" ><ol>\n<li>Onu dikkatle dinleyin. Kendi konu\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 en aza indirin. \u201cDaha neler var?\u201d gibi k\u0131sa ifadelerle, konu\u015fmay\u0131 te\u015fvik edin.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuz konu\u015furken g\u00f6z temas\u0131 kurun. Ona t\u00fcm dikkatinizi veremeyece\u011finiz bir zaman size gelirse, m\u00fcsait olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zaman\u0131 s\u00f6yleyin.<\/li>\n<li>S\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kesmeyin.<\/li>\n<li>Onun \u00fczerinde yo\u011funla\u015f\u0131n. Kendi duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 veya deneyimlerinizi dile getirme iste\u011finizi, \u00e7ocu\u011funuz istemedi\u011fi s\u00fcrece engelleyin.<\/li>\n<li>Duygularla davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n birbirinden \u00e7ok farkl\u0131 oldu\u011funu unutmay\u0131n. \u00d6fkeli oldu\u011funuzda birisini incitmeyi istemek \u00e7ok normaldir ama o ki\u015fiyi ger\u00e7ekten incitmek kabul edilemez. (Oyunca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 k\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in karde\u015fini \u00e7imdiklemek isteyebilirsin ama bunu ger\u00e7ekten yapamazs\u0131n.)<\/li>\n<li>Duygular\u0131n\u0131 hissedebilmesi (ya\u015fayabilmesi) i\u00e7in ona zaman tan\u0131y\u0131n. Onu hemen ne\u015felendirmek sizin kendinizi iyi hissetmenizi sa\u011flayabilir ama uzun vadede ona yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmayacakt\u0131r.<\/li>\n<li>Duygular\u0131n d\u0131\u015favurumu i\u00e7in y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 olmayan y\u00f6ntemler \u00f6nerin. Yarg\u0131lamay\u0131n. Duygular do\u011fru ya da yanl\u0131\u015f olamazlar. Siz ayn\u0131 durumda farkl\u0131 \u015fekilde tepki verecek olsan\u0131z bile, onun duygular\u0131n\u0131 kabul edin.<\/li>\n<li>Onun duygular\u0131yla ilgili haklar\u0131na sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterin. Yarg\u0131, \u015fa\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131k ve d\u00fc\u015fk\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7eren tepkilerden \u2013s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerden, bak\u0131\u015flardan ya da v\u00fccut dilinden- ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n. \u00d6yle hissetmesinin do\u011fru olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesine kap\u0131lmas\u0131na izin vermeyin.<\/li>\n<li>Duygular\u0131n\u0131n savunmas\u0131n\u0131 ya da nedenlerini a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 isteyip, onu zorlamay\u0131n. Birincisi, bunun nedenini bilmeyebilir ve bilse bile duygular\u0131n\u0131 \u2013ya da nedenlerini- s\u00f6zc\u00fcklerle ifade edemeyebilir. (Hissetmek ve onu a\u00e7\u0131klamak \u00e7ok farkl\u0131d\u0131r.) \u0130kincisi de, bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa duygular\u0131n\u0131n nedenlerini a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 sormak, iyi bir nedeni olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00fcrece onun duygular\u0131n\u0131 kabul etmeyece\u011finiz anlam\u0131na gelir.<\/li>\n<li>Size anlaml\u0131 gelmese bile, \u00e7ok aptal veya anla\u015f\u0131lmaz g\u00f6z\u00fckse bile, \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun duygular\u0131n\u0131\u00a0onaylay\u0131n (tasdik edin). (Onaylama, \u00e7ocu\u011fun duygular\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015famas\u0131na izin vermektir: \u201cBirisinin \u2018sen \u00f6dleksin\u201d demesi ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok k\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 olabilir\u201d gibi s\u00f6zlerle duygular\u0131n\u0131 do\u011frulayabilirsiniz.<\/li>\n<li>Sizinle hemen konu\u015fmak istememesine sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterin. Fikrini de\u011fi\u015ftirirse, size tekrar gelebilece\u011fini s\u00f6yleyin.<\/li>\n<li>Ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n duygular\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcstlenmeden de destekleyici olunabilece\u011fini unutmay\u0131n. \u00c7ocu\u011funuz \u00fczg\u00fcn diye sizin de \u00fczg\u00fcn olman\u0131z gerekmez.<\/li>\n<li>Rol\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fcn d\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kmay\u0131n. Desteklemek, dinlemek, kabul etmek ve onaylamak anlam\u0131ndad\u0131r. Bu duygu al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fini ele\u015ftirmek ya da tavsiyelerde bulunmak i\u00e7in bir f\u0131\u0131rsat olarak de\u011ferlendirmeyin. Belli bir a\u015famada, olas\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcmleri bulmas\u0131 konusunda ona yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilirsiniz. Bu arada, bir \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bulup olay\u0131 sonu\u00e7land\u0131rmaktan \u00e7ok, ona duygular\u0131 ile ba\u015fetmesi konusunda yard\u0131mc\u0131 olun.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun yo\u011fun duygular\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z huzursuzluk, korku ve yetersizlik duygular\u0131na dikkat edin. Duygular\u0131n insan olman\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131 oldu\u011funu unutmay\u0131n. \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun duygular\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015famas\u0131n\u0131 engellemek, duygulardan korumak ya da sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 halletmek ona yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmaz ve gerekli de de\u011fildir.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun \u00fcz\u00fclmesini, bozulmas\u0131n\u0131 engellemek i\u00e7in kendi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ihlal etme e\u011filimine girmeyin. Hem \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun duygular\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015famas\u0131na izin verir, hem de kendi s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 da koruyabilirsiniz: \u201cSana banyo yapman gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi\u011fimde bana \u00f6fkelenebilirsin. Ama ger\u00e7ekten banyo yapman gerekiyor.\u201d Ya da \u201cTelefonu kullanamamak hi\u00e7 ho\u015funa gitmiyor biliyorum. Evdeki i\u015flerini bitirir bitirmez kullanabilirsin.\u201d<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7eli\u015fkili durumlar\u0131 y\u00f6netmeyi \u00f6\u011fretin ve model olu\u015fturun. Duygular\u0131 ya\u015faman\u0131n, ifade etmenin ve i\u015flemden ge\u00e7irmenin, ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 dile getirmenin ve s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 koruman\u0131n sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 yollar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterin. B\u00f6ylece kendi hayat\u0131nda \u00e7eli\u015fkiler ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, nas\u0131l davranmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi konusunda bir \u00f6rnek olu\u015fturun.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n, duygular\u0131n\u0131 y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 olmayan bir \u015fekilde ifade edebilecek yer ve g\u00fcvenceleri olursa, s\u0131rf \u00f6fkeli bir yeti\u015fkinden ve onun olumsuz tepkilerinden ka\u00e7\u0131nmak i\u00e7in duygular\u0131n\u0131 \u201cbiriktirmek\u201d veya \u201ciyi\u201d gibi g\u00f6z\u00fckmek zorunda kalmazlar.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div><\/div><\/section>\n<section class='av_tab_section av_tab_section av-av_tab-a9f18a687270139095b80fec71e62118'  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/CreativeWork\" ><div class='tab' role='tab' tabindex='0' data-fake-id='#tab-id-3' aria-controls='tab-id-3-content'  itemprop=\"headline\" >\u00c7ocu\u011fu Dinlemek<\/div><div id='tab-id-3-content' class='tab_content' aria-hidden=\"true\"><div class='tab_inner_content invers-color'  itemprop=\"text\" ><ol>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuz sizinle konu\u015furken, onunla g\u00f6z temas\u0131 kurun.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun odas\u0131na girmeden \u00f6nce, \u00f6zellikle de kap\u0131 kapal\u0131 ise, kap\u0131y\u0131 t\u0131klat\u0131n.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzla konu\u015furken, onun size hitab ederken kullanmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011finiz dili, kelimeleri ve ses tonunu kullan\u0131n.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun e\u011flenme ve arkada\u015flar\u0131 ile zaman ge\u00e7irme ihtiyac\u0131na \u00f6nem verin.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun sizden (ya da di\u011fer aile bireylerinden) farkl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ve tercihleri olmas\u0131na izin verin.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun mahremiyet ihtiyac\u0131na sayg\u0131 g\u00f6sterin. Ona gelen mektuplar\u0131 a\u00e7may\u0131n, telefonlar\u0131n\u0131 dinlemeyin.<\/li>\n<li>Onun bir e\u015fyas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6d\u00fcn\u00e7 almadan ya da kullanmadan \u00f6nce izin al\u0131n.<\/li>\n<li>E\u011fer \u00e7ocu\u011funuz bir \u015fey i\u00e7in m\u00fccadele ediyorsa ve kendini ya da bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 yaralamas\u0131, de\u011ferli bir \u015feye zarar vermesi s\u00f6zkonusu de\u011filse, m\u00fcdahale etmeden \u00f6nce yard\u0131m isteyip istemedi\u011fini sorun.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun olaylara sizden daha farkl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde tepkiler vermesine izin verin. Onu ele\u015ftirmeyin, su\u00e7lamay\u0131n ya da alay etmeyin.<\/li>\n<li>Ona \u015faka yapman\u0131z\u0131 ya da g\u0131d\u0131klaman\u0131z\u0131 istemedi\u011fi zamanlarda, bunu hi\u00e7bir yorum yapmadan, alay etmeden ya da yarg\u0131lamadan hemen b\u0131rak\u0131n.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c7ocu\u011funuza onun istedi\u011fi \u015fekilde hitab edin. Onu utand\u0131ran ya da b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in vazge\u00e7menizi istedi\u011fi isim ya da takma isimler kullanmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n.<\/li>\n<li>Birisi \u00e7ocu\u011funuza bir soru sordu\u011funda, cevap vermesine izin verin. Onun ad\u0131na konu\u015fmaktan, \u00f6zellikle de yan\u0131n\u0131zda ise, ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n.<\/li>\n<li>Onunla tan\u0131\u015fmam\u0131\u015f birisiyle kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu onunla tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131n. Yeti\u015fkin bir arkada\u015f\u0131n\u0131zla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, yan\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fu varsa ona da merhaba demeyi unutmay\u0131n.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/div><\/div><\/section>\n<section class='av_tab_section av_tab_section av-av_tab-a0e866362214f3c234c2d174d54e509b'  itemscope=\"itemscope\" itemtype=\"https:\/\/schema.org\/CreativeWork\" ><div class='tab' role='tab' tabindex='0' data-fake-id='#tab-id-4' aria-controls='tab-id-4-content'  itemprop=\"headline\" >Sorumsuzluk Duygusunun Geli\u015ftirilmesi (!)<\/div><div id='tab-id-4-content' class='tab_content' aria-hidden=\"true\"><div class='tab_inner_content invers-color'  itemprop=\"text\" ><ol>\n<li>Onun ad\u0131na yalan s\u00f6yleyin.<\/li>\n<li>Onun davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 i\u00e7in mazaretler bulun.<\/li>\n<li>Onun hatalar\u0131n\u0131 onun ad\u0131na d\u00fczeltin (ya da \u00f6deyin).<\/li>\n<li>Kendiniz sorumluluk, kararl\u0131l\u0131k ve s\u00f6yledi\u011fini yerine getirme konusunda eksiklikler g\u00f6stererek model olu\u015fturun.<\/li>\n<li>Yapmakla su\u00e7land\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir \u015feyi yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131na inanmay\u0131 reddedin.<\/li>\n<li>Onun yerine kavga edin.<\/li>\n<li>Daha fazla \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma yaratmamak i\u00e7in yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 kabul edilemez davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 ho\u015fg\u00f6r\u00fcn ve affedin.<\/li>\n<li>\u00d6zellikle yorgun, bezgin oldu\u011funuzda ve u\u011fra\u015fmaya de\u011fmedi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, onu kendi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131ndan sorumlu tutma konusunda de\u011fi\u015fken davran\u0131n.<\/li>\n<li>E\u011fer iyi bir mazareti varsa, yapt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n s\u00fcrekli olarak yan\u0131na kalmas\u0131na izin verin.<\/li>\n<li>Onun evdeki i\u015flerini siz yap\u0131n ve sorumluluklar\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcstlenin. Kendinizi bunlar\u0131 sizin yapman\u0131z\u0131n daha kolay oldu\u011funa inand\u0131r\u0131n.<\/li>\n<li>Verdi\u011fi kararlar\u0131 yerine getirmedi\u011finde ya da ilk \u00f6nce yapmas\u0131 gerekenleri yapmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, ayr\u0131cal\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 kazanmas\u0131na izin verin. \u201cSadece bir kere\u201d ya da \u201cTamam, ama bu son kez\u201d gibi bahaneler bulun. Ayr\u0131ca, ger\u00e7ekten \u00f6yle olmasan\u0131z bile,\u00a0\u201cBu sefer ger\u00e7ekten \u00e7ok ciddiyim\u201d deyin.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>\u00c7ocu\u011funuzu, yapaca\u011f\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f se\u00e7imlerin yarataca\u011f\u0131 olumsuz sonu\u00e7lardan korumaya ve sorun ya\u015famamas\u0131 i\u00e7in nedenler bulmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak \u00e7ok do\u011fald\u0131r. Dikkatli olun, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu t\u00fcr bir e\u011filim sonunda onun kendi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n sorumlulu\u011funu \u00fcstlenme yetene\u011fini (ya da isteklili\u011fini) yok edecektir. \u00c7ocu\u011funuza, onu idealize etmeden inanman\u0131z ve onu zor durumlardan kurtarmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z ya da sorunlar\u0131n\u0131 onun i\u00e7in \u00e7\u00f6zmedi\u011finiz zamanlarda bile onun hayat\u0131ndaki de\u011feriniz ve \u00f6neminizin fark\u0131nda olman\u0131z \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir.<\/p>\n<p>_____________________________________________________<\/p>\n<p>*Bluestein, Jane (Ph.D), \u201cAnababalar\u0131n Yapmas\u0131 ve Yapmamas\u0131 Gerekenler \u201c,<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7eviri: Dr. Hande G\u00fcrel, HYB Yay\u0131nc\u0131l\u0131k, 2000.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/section>\n<\/div><\/div><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Anne Babal\u0131k Hakk\u0131nda - Prof. Dr. B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Prof.Dr.B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel taraf\u0131ndan haz\u0131rlanan sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmek,anne babal\u0131k, duygular\u0131n ifade edilmesi, \u00e7ocu\u011fu dinlemek ile ilgili yaz\u0131\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/index.php\/anne-babalik-hakkinda\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"tr_TR\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Anne Babal\u0131k Hakk\u0131nda - Prof. Dr. B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Prof.Dr.B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel taraf\u0131ndan haz\u0131rlanan sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmek,anne babal\u0131k, duygular\u0131n ifade edilmesi, \u00e7ocu\u011fu dinlemek ile ilgili yaz\u0131\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/index.php\/anne-babalik-hakkinda\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Prof. Dr. B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2017-02-16T08:15:16+00:00\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Tahmini okuma s\u00fcresi\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"10 dakika\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/index.php\/anne-babalik-hakkinda\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/index.php\/anne-babalik-hakkinda\/\",\"name\":\"Anne Babal\u0131k Hakk\u0131nda - Prof. Dr. B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/#website\"},\"datePublished\":\"2017-02-14T11:47:35+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2017-02-16T08:15:16+00:00\",\"description\":\"Prof.Dr.B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel taraf\u0131ndan haz\u0131rlanan sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmek,anne babal\u0131k, duygular\u0131n ifade edilmesi, \u00e7ocu\u011fu dinlemek ile ilgili yaz\u0131\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/index.php\/anne-babalik-hakkinda\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"tr\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/index.php\/anne-babalik-hakkinda\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/index.php\/anne-babalik-hakkinda\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Anasayfa\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Anne Babal\u0131k Hakk\u0131nda\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/bulentsekerel.com\/\",\"name\":\"Prof. Dr. B\u00fclent Enis \u015eekerel\",\"description\":\"\u00c7ocuk Sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve Hastal\u0131klar\u0131 &amp; 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